Not a day goes by that Asma can’t remember life before she was a refugee. Originally from Maungdaw, a town in Myanmar bordering Bangladesh, she once led a carefree life with her family.
But things started to take a turn when her husband was diagnosed with cancer. Seeing no other option, the two decided that he would cross the border to Bangladesh to receive medical treatment.
The journey has not been easy, but the EU and the International Rescue Committee helped her along the way with humanitarian assistance. “I learned how to be strong,” she explains. This is her story.
Asma and her children — her son and 2 daughters — stayed back in their home. But when the violence against the Rohingya began to escalate in 2017, the family had no choice but to escape to Bangladesh.
“We had to leave almost everything behind and run. We were scared for our lives,” Asma remembers. Her relatives and neighbours were among the many who lost their lives during the escalation.
Through EU humanitarian funding, the IRC supports Rohingya and host communities in Cox’s Bazar by providing health, protection, and water, sanitation, and hygiene services.
Asma is one of the many camp residents that has received these services. She was among the 700,000 Rohingya that fled from Myanmar to Bangladesh, hoping to find safety and respite from the violence and discrimination they were facing back home.
In a matter of days, Asma’s life was turned around. Alongside thousands of other Rohingya, she and her family became refugees — with only a handful of photos to remind them of what life had been like.
2 days after Asma arrived in the refugee camp in Cox’s Bazar, where she and her children would now live in tents, she reunited with her husband.
“He was so happy to see our children,” she says. But her husband’s health had deteriorated rapidly, and he was now in a critical condition.
The trip to his family in his weakened state had taken a toll on him. “We admitted him to a hospital again, but this time around it was too late,” says Asma, remembering her husband’s final days.
Seeking support when most needed
It has been 5 years since the day Asma and her family arrived at Cox’s Bazar. Asma’s oldest daughter was married and moved in with her in-laws, while Asma continues to care for the rest of her children.
“I’ve been living by the motto that if my children are doing fine, I’m doing fine — but since the loss of my husband, I’ve been feeling so alone,” Asma admits.
Asma’s relationship with her daughter’s in-laws became extremely strained, taking a toll on her mental and physical health. “They insulted me and called me names because I am a widow,” she says.
At one point, her mental stress began to show physical symptoms. She was unable to eat or sleep properly and lacked the energy to take care of her children.
Eventually, Asma mustered the courage to seek help and approached the IRC’s EU-funded protection programme. Here, staff members referred her to caseworkers that would initiate a mediation process between herself and her daughter’s in-laws.
Ever since then, Asma has been feeling much better.
Throughout the process, the female staff members became Asma’s rock and taught her to stay brave when facing such issues. They gave Asma a safe space to share her concerns, where she felt heard without fear of being judged.
“I learned how to be strong thanks to them,” says Asma.
Despite everything that has happened to Asma over the last few years, she is now a firm believer in seeking support when times are rough.
“I do not feel as alone anymore,” she says. “I know there are people to help me if I need them.”
Story by the International Rescue Committee (IRC).
Publication date: 21/12/2022
Disclaimer: A Rohingya mother’s journey to find peace in her new home - Views expressed by writers in this section are their own and do not necessarily reflect Latheefarook.com point-of-view